8 Ways Save Your Struggling RelationshipMay 7, 2018 5:56 am by | No Comments.
Relationships are hard enough already, to be in a struggling one is even more difficult. In order to save your struggling relationship, you have to be willing to put in the work.
Partners can make your life easier, but they can also make it worse.
You do have to take into account that not every relationship is going to work. That is just a fact of life. Relationships fail because because people aren’t willing to put in the time and effort.
It is not because they aren’t compatible, everyone has something in common with someone.
You can come up with all sorts of excuses to say why a your relationship is failing, but it all boils down to a few things.
That is how much have the two of you actually worked to strengthen each others relationship, the two of you aren’t really trying, and you are the only ones that are hurting each other.
I know there are a variety of factors that play into this, especially people with children. Don’t get me wrong there are relationships out there that can’t be saved, but most relationships can be saved.
Are we really trying?
The answer is simple, NO you aren’t. There is never enough trying to improve a relationship. Remember that once you are in a relationship there is no “I” anymore, it is “WE” that the both of you need to think about.
Take this as to not be selfish. The more the two of you are a team, the easier things are. More problems will come up, if either of you focuses on yourselves.
There are two things that need to be thought of and they are wants and needs. Wants are not important, but needs are.
A key point is to always compromise with one another. Even if that means giving up something that makes you happy.
If you can give up something to make them happy, they are already going to love you more. Both of you are going to have to do things that make you uncomfortable.
This is just part of the process to save your struggling relationship. Focusing on only becoming happy isn’t going to cut it. There are more things that go into a successful relationship, than you may think.
Make your partner happy
If you really love someone, you will do anything to make them happy. Sacrificing things that make you happy and doing things that makes your partner happy, is really what a successful relationship is all about.
Even though one or the other may feel like their doing all the work, that is not true. When someone does things for their partner and isn’t selfish, it usually gets reciprocated.
The two of you start to bond more and become more of team than anything.
When things start to go wrong we generally don’t want to deal with it. We like to get away from our troubles. This only makes things worse.
Yes, sometimes you do need space from one another, but at the same time you are running away from the problem. This shows immaturity, that you can’t handle your own problems.
The key here is to just talk. Communication will solve just about anything. This can resolve future problems by getting them out of the way and making those weaknesses strengths.
Don’t give up because the problem is too hard, talk it out with your partner and focus on the positives and work on the negatives. It is all just part of a bigger process to save your struggling relationship.
Be a team together
Don’t be selfish with one another. You are a team and need to start acting like it.
Either of you may be the problem in the relationship, and there is no need to point any fingers about who did what or who said what.
If you are team and support each other through anything, life in general will be easier.
This isn’t to say that if you go through life on your own that you won’t find happiness or have good life, this just means it will be a lot harder.
Having somebody by your side through the hard times and the bad times really makes you want to do better in life. Humans are meant to love and be loved, and are not meant to be alone.
Neither you or your partner are perfect, nobody is. If you really want to save your struggling relationship, both of you need to put in the time and effort to get there.
Nothing is ever going to happen if you don’t work at it. Whatever you do, don’t make excuses to why your relationship isn’t working. It takes time and energy.
So what are some things you can do to save your struggling relationship?
Really dig deep inside yourself and ask yourself some questions like:
- Why do I love this person?
- What do they do that makes me better as a person?
- How much do they love me?
- What makes me happy to be with them?
- Why are we together in the first place?
These sort of questions to ask yourselves really make you think about the bigger picture. You really start to understand why you are even with that person in the first place.
Odds are that this something that is lacking. When you don’t have good communication between one another, you start to resent each other. There are many factors that lead to resentment.
One of the biggest factors is keeping secrets from your partner without telling them anything.
Secrets between one another isn’t good for anyone. We can generally tell when anyone isn’t telling us the truth.
If you are too scared to tell you partner about something that is really bothering you and you can’t seem to get your mind off of it.
The best thing to do is to tell them. Always make time to talk with one another, that way you minimize the chances of keeping secrets from each other.
Show them how much they mean to you
Do things differently. Really do things for them that make them happy.
The more you are willing to go outside your comfort zone and do things for them that you normally wouldn’t do, this shows them how you much you love them and care for them.
It could be several things like cooking them their favorite meal, taking them to do fun things, or even spicing up your love life. Change it up from the normal routine.
Make it fun for the both of you. This really sparks up their curiosity, and wonder what is going on. Such as what has changed. It all boils down to the littlest of things.
Accepting their quirks
Partners can be the best thing in your life and can sometimes be the worst thing in your life.
Having a successful relationship is based off of accepting your partner for all of their quirks. Even if you don’t necessarily like them.
Don’t be picky when it comes to their quirks, because it is all part of who they are.
The only person you can change is yourself. You can’t change anyone, but you can tweak them.
You tweak them by leading by example, making suggestions, and being calm about everything and having the patience to do so.
8 sure fire ways to save your struggling relationship
Chances are, you still feel like you have tried everything, and can’t seem to save your struggling relationship.
Well, this is partly due to one partner not willing to cooperate at all.
Even after you have tried all these new ideas. There are still some questions that you have to ask yourself.
- Do the two of you want the same things in life?
- What steps have either one of you taken to fix things?
- Are either of you too afraid to talk to each other?
- Do they even care about you?
- Are they willing to try something new to make it work?
If you feel like you have answered these questions already and don’t want to try anything else, then you should try these 8 helpful steps:
- Become much more attentive that what you are used to being
- Be more concerned about them, and the two of yourselves well being
- Make them laugh and be goofy more
- Calm each other down
- Stay in the present and talk about current issues, and not past issues
- Put your trust in each other
- Hold yourselves responsible for your actions
- Have a positive mind set and be happy to energize your partner
You don’t have to go through any type of therapy to fix the love between you.
All it needs is some mending, time, communication, understanding and love between the two of you. If you put the work in, it will happen.
Category: Relationship Improvments